Fault from 28 years ago was CONDONNED by your husband. That means he cannot raise it as a bar to alimony. Fault is not generally a reason for property to be divided less than 50/50, so ignore what he is saying to you.
Obtain a credit card and pay for an attorney. I am sure they can get you the relief you need, since I do not believe that filing yourself is truly an option (as proceeding in litigation pro se is not a good option for anyone). Best of luck.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney at Law
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 200
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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