Greetings. First, let me say that I understand. No, I am not personally in an abusive situation, but I do know how it feels to be almost too scared to take any action and that as bad as your situation is, it “feels” safer just to stay. Now, let me also say that the feeling of fear and false security are just feelings, which you must try your best to control.
Talk to your family about helping you financially to afford an attorney.
Hire an attorney and pursue a domestic violence action. In the domestic violence action, you can ask the court to help you financially with child support and spousal support, for attorney fees, and to remain in the marital home.
Your husband’s newly created debt to his parents, without any money being exchanged, is a clear farce and I would not worry about it if I were you. The house is clearly yours. What a nice gift from them, no?
The domestic violence action is the ultimate equalizer when you have one clearly abusive spouse and one disempowered/disenfranchised spouse. This will ensure that you will be able to care for the children.
Go see your own counselor and start making yourself stronger. Believing his lies about you and to you will only keep you where you are.
Good luck and call us if we can help you.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
919.787.6668 main phone
919.256.1665 direct fax
10925 David Taylor Drive, Suite 100
Charlotte, North Carolina 28262
704.644.2831 main voice
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