# Adultery and alimony **URL:** \ **Category:** Divorce and Separation Answers\ **Created:** [July 14, 2005, 7:58am UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/adultery-and-alimony/2248 "2005-07-14T07:58:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![chughes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/3ec8ea/32.png) [@chughes](https://forum.rosen.com/u/chughes)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2005, 7:58am UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/adultery-and-alimony/2248/1 "2005-07-14T07:58:54Z")
More than likely it will. If either party has committed adultery that party is not awarded alimony. There is a place on this website that explains it all in detail. Good luck, find emotional support from someone you trust and retain legal counsel I did not and have lived to regret it. ---
**Author:** ![cocchetti](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/94ad74/32.png) [@cocchetti](https://forum.rosen.com/u/cocchetti)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2005, 9:57am UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/adultery-and-alimony/2248/2 "2005-07-14T09:57:39Z")
From what I understand, if you stayed together after the affairs, then it is considered as condoning the relationships (meaning you both know it happened but were willing to overlook them) and does not have as much of an affect on alimony. If you were divorcing due to a recent adultery, then, yes, alimony would not be awarded. Since yours happened so long ago, it may not have a huge effect on alimony. I wouldn’t give up on getting it and speak with a lawyer. ---
**Author:** ![JanetFritts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/d2c977/32.png) [@JanetFritts](https://forum.rosen.com/u/JanetFritts)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2005, 8:42pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/adultery-and-alimony/2248/3 "2005-07-23T20:42:24Z")
Dear teachkind1: Greetings. No, since both you and your husband’s affairs were condonned (forgiven) they should not have any bearing on the alimony issue. Thank you. Janet L. Fritts Attorney with Rosen Divorce 4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500 Raleigh, North Carolina 27607 919.787.6668 main phone 919.256.1665 direct fax 10925 David Taylor Drive, Suite 100 Charlotte, North Carolina 28262 704.644.2831 main voice 704.307.4595 main fax > **[North Carolina Divorce Law - Legal Answers and Info](https://www.rosen.com)** > > The best resource for divorce in NC. Find accurate, legal, family law advice from attorneys practicing in Raleigh, Durham, Cary, and Chapel Hill. The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service but a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action. ---
**Author:** ![teachkind1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/54ee81/32.png) [@teachkind1](https://forum.rosen.com/u/teachkind1)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2005, 11:18pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/adultery-and-alimony/2248/4 "2005-07-13T23:18:24Z")
My husband and I have been married for 20 years and have three children. About 8 years ago I had an affair with another man due largely in part to my husband’s lack of emotional attachment and years of verbal and mental abuse. He found out about the affair but we reconciled and remained married. I have not strayed since and realized my past indiscretion was due to depression. About three years ago my husband had a short fling of his own but he ended it and we still stayed together. Recently he decided that he wants a divorce and consulted a lawyer. My question is: Will my past affair have any bearing on whether or not I can receive alimony? Thank you for your help.