2010 - 2011 I had an affair with another lady (referred to as mistress) who was a friend and co-worker. Overtime the mistress stated her desire to have a child via artificial insemination. I had no opinion but expressed the fact that I was not interested in being the donor or father. December 2011, I received an email from the mistress stating that she was pregnant, “unsure of how it happened,” but assured me that she wants nothing from me, does not to destroy my family, etc.
At the time of the affair my wife and I were NOT experiencing any issues. We were expecting our second child, enjoying the first and having the best times in years. During and after the affair, our intimate life was negatively impacted.
I had not spoken to the mistress since Jan 2011 until she contacted me (in anger) last week requesting financial assistance. I have already confessed my mistakes to my wife and we are going through counseling to save our family. I have NOT agreed to anything with the mistress and demanded a paternity test.
As I prepare to deal with a possible child support battle, I can’t help but feel that the mistress intentionally manipulated this situation to sever our marriage. A mutual co-worker has confided in me that on several occasions the mistress made comments to her that she, the mistress, could “steal me away” and “have me as her [future] baby’s father.” There were other comments as well.
Again, my wife and I are working through this but do we have any legal re-course against the mistress? Alienation of affection, criminal conversation? Anything???