# Custody frustrations **URL:** \ **Category:** Divorce and Separation Answers\ **Created:** [September 12, 2007, 10:10pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/custody-frustrations/5005 "2007-09-12T22:10:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 2\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Helena\_Nevicosi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/db5fbb/32.png) [@Helena\_Nevicosi](https://forum.rosen.com/u/Helena_Nevicosi)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2007, 10:10pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/custody-frustrations/5005/1 "2007-09-12T22:10:54Z")
I am not sure exaclty what you are asking. In order to be valid you need to have a written and notarized agreement. If they mutually agree for him to have more custody time that is generally not problematic. The problem comes in if she decides to take that time away, if he has nothing in writing, he has nothing to enforce. Helena M. Nevicosi Attorney with Rosen Law Firm 4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500 Raleigh, North Carolina 27607 919.787.6668 main phone 919.787.6361 main fax Charlotte Office 301 McCullough Drive Suite 510 Charlotte, NC 28262 Main Phone: (704)307.4600 Main Fax: (704) 9343.0044 Durham & Chapel Hill Office 1829 East Franklin Street Building 600 Chapel Hill, NC 27514 (919) 321.0780 > **[North Carolina Divorce Law - Legal Answers and Info](https://www.rosen.com/)** > > The best resource for divorce in NC. Find accurate, legal, family law advice from attorneys practicing in Raleigh, Durham, Cary, and Chapel Hill. The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service only, a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action. The information posted on this forum is available for public viewing and is not intended to create an attorney client relationship with any individual. These answers are provided for informational purposes only, a person should consult with their own individual legal counsel before taking any action that could affect their legal rights or obligations. ---
**Author:** ![mal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a698b9/32.png) [@mal](https://forum.rosen.com/u/mal)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2007, 5:33am UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/custody-frustrations/5005/2 "2007-09-11T05:33:06Z")
My husband and his ex were able to reach a verbal/e-mail based agreement about increased visitation (for him) which has been happening now for the past month. It was also tied into her agreeing to let him claim his daughter for taxes. Since the month prior to that (so for 2 months) he has been trying to get the ex to sign the agreement so it can be notarized and we just keep getting one excuse after another. Obviously she has agreed to it since we have been doing it! He did e-mail his lawyer who said that the notarized agreement “may not be enough” and if she won’t sign it he will probably have to go after another court order. We would rather not do that due to the expense. How big of a deal is this? I know that she has to sign the 8332 for it to be valid. Right now we are sharing 50/50.