[quote=“costaldad”]As the father of two young children, I have a question regarding custody. As the SA states, I am to have custody 4 days a month. Since our separation last year, we have followed this. However, as anyone knows, this is not enough time. We have been separated for less than 12 months, so no filing yet. I want/need more time. She is in agreement, but minimally. I want closer to 50/50. If we don’t agree before filing, how can I assure I get more time? What are the appropiate steps if she won’t or we can’t agree on a different (more fair) custody plan?
If you have already signed and notarized the SA I am not sure as to the proper course of action other than to file a motion for a change in the visitation based on a change in circumstances… Obviously, if you have not yet signed and notarized the seperation agreement, I wouldn’t do so if you do not agree with it’s terms. Don’t sign something less than what you’re willing to settle for because you want to “be the nice guy” or because the STBX is making promises, etc. if you do. It’s amazing how quickly the STBX can change their tune once they get what they want in the SA, and by then it’s likely too late to do anything about it.
I’m not a lawyer, just some informed wisdom based on my own experience so far lol…