# Custody **URL:** \ **Category:** Divorce and Separation Answers\ **Created:** [October 17, 2005, 6:40am UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/custody/2588 "2005-10-17T06:40:22Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 3\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![fatlilbeagle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/13edae/32.png) [@fatlilbeagle](https://forum.rosen.com/u/fatlilbeagle)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2005, 6:40am UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/custody/2588/1 "2005-10-17T06:40:22Z")
Without a custody agreement there isn’t much you CAN do. However, I strongly recommend asking the county you live in for a free mediation hearing, which if I’m not mistaken is already mandated as a first step in custody disputes. It will be you, your spouse and the mediator. It is not a binding decision and you don’t HAVE to reach one, though the process and decisions are highly regarded by the court. ---
**Author:** ![JanetFritts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/d2c977/32.png) [@JanetFritts](https://forum.rosen.com/u/JanetFritts)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2005, 7:10pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/custody/2588/2 "2005-11-06T19:10:56Z")
Dear rebeccalynn84: Greetings. While it is not grounds for an emergency custody order, it is grounds for a temporary custody hearing. You must file a complaint for custody and set the matter for hearing for custody. You may want to speak with an attorney about how to draft the agreement. Thank you. Janet L. Fritts Attorney with Rosen Law Firm 4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500 Raleigh, North Carolina 27607 919.787.6668 main phone 919.256.1665 direct fax 10925 David Taylor Drive, Suite 100 Charlotte, North Carolina 28262 704.644.2831 main voice 704.307.4595 main fax 1829 East Franklin Street, Bldg 600 Chapel Hill, NC 27514 919.321.0780 main phone 919.787.6668 main fax > **[North Carolina Divorce Law - Legal Answers and Info](https://www.rosen.com/)** > > The best resource for divorce in NC. Find accurate, legal, family law advice from attorneys practicing in Raleigh, Durham, Cary, and Chapel Hill. The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service but a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action. ---
**Author:** ![rebeccalynn84](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b4bc9f/32.png) [@rebeccalynn84](https://forum.rosen.com/u/rebeccalynn84)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2005, 9:15am UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/custody/2588/3 "2005-10-07T09:15:08Z")
i am in the middle of a custody battle that my soon to ex husband is dragging out. he has took my daughter twice, and once I had to pay him $100 dollars for him to return her, and the last time he just refused and i had to go get her from his babysitters while he was at work. is this grounds for a emergency custody order and, if it is how do i go about filing one. i went to clerk of court to file one and they said i had to hire a lawyer, but unlike my ex, i dont have the money for that. what should i do? rebecca lynn anderson