# Dating/cohabitation

**URL:** <https://forum.rosen.com/t/dating-cohabitation/4400>\
**Category:** Divorce and Separation Answers\
**Created:** [April 17, 2007, 7:10am UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/dating-cohabitation/4400 "2007-04-17T07:10:05Z")\
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**Author:** ![stepmother](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/90ced4/32.png) [@stepmother](https://forum.rosen.com/u/stepmother)\
**Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 7:10am UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/dating-cohabitation/4400/1 "2007-04-17T07:10:05Z")

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In NC it is illegal to have sex with someone other than your spouse, unless your spouse has given consent. This is even during separation. It is considered adultery. It is a misdemeanor and is rarely prosecuted. There is nothing illegal about dating or having a relationship with someone during separation, only having sex with them.  
This means that if both of you have given consent to the other to have sex with someone outside of your marriage then there would be no problem with you moving in with someone else. If you were receiving alimony, that would cease if you were to cohabitate. To be on the “safe” side, I would mention this decision to your STBX and see what his reaction is. If he “consents” to this then you are “free and clear”.

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**Author:** ![Helena\_Nevicosi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/db5fbb/32.png) [@Helena\_Nevicosi](https://forum.rosen.com/u/Helena_Nevicosi)\
**Post date:** [May 29, 2007, 11:51am UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/dating-cohabitation/4400/2 "2007-05-29T11:51:03Z")

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Until the day you are actually divorced, a sexual relationship with someone who is not your spouse is adultery, regardless of the circumstances. Adultery is a misdemeanor and you can be prosecuted for it in this state.

Helena M. Nevicosi  
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**Author:** ![uncwondering](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ed8c4c/32.png) [@uncwondering](https://forum.rosen.com/u/uncwondering)\
**Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 5:36am UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/dating-cohabitation/4400/3 "2007-04-17T05:36:03Z")

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I am just clarifying a few things…i have been separated a few months (not the year and a day yet) and I am now dating someone (and so is my stbx). I think that I read on one of the forums that i cannot legally live with him until my divorce is final. Is that true even though i am receiving no money from from him? even if i do live with the guy i am dating, what legal action can be taken against me if neither my stbx nor myself is contesting the divorce?
