# Ex dating Child support Enforcement Attorney

**URL:** <https://forum.rosen.com/t/ex-dating-child-support-enforcement-attorney/12131>\
**Category:** Divorce and Separation Answers\
**Created:** [April 13, 2011, 2:13pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/ex-dating-child-support-enforcement-attorney/12131 "2011-04-13T14:13:27Z")\
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**Author:** ![bmkdmw](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/forum.rosen.com/bmkdmw/32/612_2.png) [@bmkdmw](https://forum.rosen.com/u/bmkdmw)\
**Post date:** [April 13, 2011, 2:13pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/ex-dating-child-support-enforcement-attorney/12131/1 "2011-04-13T14:13:27Z")

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I just found out that my ex-wife is dating the DSS Child Support Enforcement Attorney in our county. I have received letters from him requesting paycheck stubs and income tax information. I have seen his truck at my ex-wife house several times when I picked up or dropped off my kids. I have seen him coming out of my ex’s house and recently seen them at a local park together. My kids told me he is my ex’s new boyfriend. I don’t care who she is dating because she goes through men constantly but I am getting married and will soon have a minor dependent living with me and my oldest son will turn 18 next year and my daughter the follow year. I would think this would be a conflict of interest and I didn’t think attorneys were allowed to date people they represent. Please advise how to handle this situation.

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**Author:** ![Erin\_Clarey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9de0a6/32.png) [@Erin\_Clarey](https://forum.rosen.com/u/Erin_Clarey)\
**Post date:** [April 13, 2011, 3:33pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/ex-dating-child-support-enforcement-attorney/12131/2 "2011-04-13T15:33:06Z")

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Attorneys should not have a romantic relationship with a current client, UNLESS the relationship began BEFORE the representation. You may contact the State Bar to report the attorney if the relationship begin after the representation.

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**Author:** ![bmkdmw](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/forum.rosen.com/bmkdmw/32/612_2.png) [@bmkdmw](https://forum.rosen.com/u/bmkdmw)\
**Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 5:17pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/ex-dating-child-support-enforcement-attorney/12131/3 "2011-04-15T17:17:06Z")

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According to the NC State Bar website, Rule 1.19 Sexual Relations with Clients Prohibited states:  
(a) A lawyer shall not have sexual relations with a current client of the lawyer.  
(b) Paragraph (a) shall not apply if a consensual sexual relationship existed between the lawyer and the client before the legal representation commenced.

I am wondering if my ex-wife broke up the marriage of this Child Support Enforcement Attorney. During our marriage, my ex-wife was confronted by a wife about an affair. My ex-wife boasted, “This is not the first marriage I have broken up!” And I’m sure it wasn’t the last. I have sent formal complaints about this DSS attorney to the local county commissioners, the director of the NC DSS, and the NC State Bar Grievance Committee. I will let them figure out if this relationship existed before the legal representation commenced. I shouldn’t have to deal with stress like this.