I have been dating someone for almost two years. My partner has been divorced for almost 4 years. There are two minor children (one will be 18 in a few weeks and the other is 16). The original separation agreement stated that the minor children could only meet a new partner if the other parent agreed. My partner and I have asked several times, we have sent (at the other parent’s request) personal identification information about myself (name, occupation, information about my own minor child). The ex-spouse has refused repeatedly even when the eldest child ages out, claiming now that I will only be permitted to meet the children once both children have graduated high school (which would be nearly 6 months after the youngest ages out).
Our question is, as both children wish to meet me, given their ages, is this even enforceable? We find ourselves unable to move forward in our relationship and it is significantly impacting our lives with a secondary impact to my partner’s children. The ex-spouse further has refused our requests for mediation to revise this subject. While we know that we can’t be told it’s ok to violate an order so entered, we are finding it difficult to understand what real damages the ex-spouse could try to claim in the event we decide to simply let the children meet me as they wish.