# Financial support

**URL:** <https://forum.rosen.com/t/financial-support/16603>\
**Category:** Divorce and Separation Answers\
**Created:** [February 3, 2016, 5:52pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/financial-support/16603 "2016-02-03T17:52:16Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 2\
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**Author:** ![July2015](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/dec6dc/32.png) [@July2015](https://forum.rosen.com/u/July2015)\
**Post date:** [February 3, 2016, 5:52pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/financial-support/16603/1 "2016-02-03T17:52:16Z")

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He had a 2+yr affair. I found out 7 months ago. He can’t afford to leave and honestly I don’t wAnt him too. Question, would post-separation alimony be allotted to me if he leaves and I refuse the divorce? Oh by the way we’ve been together 31 yrs married 28 and have 3 grown sons. The youngest in college, and he makes 5x my salary.

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**Author:** ![Lindsay\_Willis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/858c86/32.png) [@Lindsay\_Willis](https://forum.rosen.com/u/Lindsay_Willis)\
**Post date:** [February 6, 2016, 7:40pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/financial-support/16603/2 "2016-02-06T19:40:00Z")

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I’m a little confused by your question. You can’t refuse a divorce; either spouse can file for divorce after one year of separation and there isn’t anything you can do to prevent the divorce from being granted. If he makes 5 times your salary, then it sounds like you would be a candidate for PSS/Alimony. Evidence of his affair also has an impact on alimony.