How much alimony is too much

He is bound to the signed agreement-even if it means taking a second job.

As far as you go, ignorance of the law is no excuse. However, threats via email are just that–threats. She will have to retain a lawyer and formally sue you to make a case, (unless there is some DIY kit out there) so until she does that, she has no case against you. I would not worry until you have been served with formal papers.

It all depends. If the judge is an adulterer, you are safe. It cost a pile for an A of A. No use to sue if you, the girlfriend, has nothing. If your boyfriend has signed an agreement, then he is obligated pretty much. And also, why believe anyone who cheats on his wife? Just my take anyway.

I am not sure what you are asking. Alimony is based on the income of each party and their ability to pay, however the judge is the person who determines what their ability to pay is.

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It’s still pre-divorce at this stage, there has been no signed separation agreement. It’s been a year of trying to haggle one out between the two of them. She wants him to pay full health insurance, which alone would exceed any income he might have after child support payments and his personal support. He’s not living extravagantly. In Wake County, his rent payment is less than $450. No eating out, no clothing purchases, just debt payments, and he’s already paying child support voluntarily.

She’s asking for alimony that he can’t afford to pay right now, but is paying while not paying other debts so that he can help her get on her feet. She’s asking for the alimony to increase by a set amount every couple of years, while asking him to bear the costs for college education and support of the kids too. He cannot increase his income any more than he already has by taking the second job. She can work more than 10 hours a week, but refuses to.

BTW, momsdaughter, FWIW, make all the assumptions you want about whether or not he’s a cheat. He wasn’t. (yep. she told him he could date after the separation, then went back on that.) You don’t know the situation. The only reason why I’m with him is BECAUSE he didn’t cheat, and I’ve known him long enough to know. I’m not vain enough to think that I’m so hot that a guy who is prone to cheating, wouldn’t eventually cheat on me. He was honest with her in situations where most men would lie to avoid an argument. So, please don’t judge.

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Can the wife require the husband to pay health insurance, (which she already qualifies for through the state on her income) and alimony even if either one of those amounts alone exceed what he is able to pay? He can’t even pay his college loans currently, as well as other debts, even though he had to take a second job to pay the child support and post separation support he’s paying now.

We didn’t read the law prior to getting involved, and began dating after she asked him for a divorce, but were friends prior to that time. Would a judge award her alimony above and over what he is capable of paying because of this? (Yes, she’s already threatened me via email with AA & CC prosecution as well as other verbal threats over the phone of a much more damaging nature.)