# How to catch a cheating husband

**URL:** <https://forum.rosen.com/t/how-to-catch-a-cheating-husband/15218>\
**Category:** Divorce and Separation Answers\
**Created:** [August 30, 2013, 4:15pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/how-to-catch-a-cheating-husband/15218 "2013-08-30T16:15:19Z")\
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**Author:** ![nov4](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@nov4](https://forum.rosen.com/u/nov4)\
**Post date:** [August 30, 2013, 4:15pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/how-to-catch-a-cheating-husband/15218/1 "2013-08-30T16:15:19Z")

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What do I need to prove adultery? Are text messages okay if he admits it? Or does he have to write a letter admitting what he did? Or do I have to hire a private investigator? We are already separated and living in separate residences and separate counties. Help!!

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**Author:** ![Kathleen\_Putiri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/57b2e6/32.png) [@Kathleen\_Putiri](https://forum.rosen.com/u/Kathleen_Putiri)\
**Post date:** [September 1, 2013, 8:10pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/how-to-catch-a-cheating-husband/15218/2 "2013-09-01T20:10:13Z")

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Any evidence you have that he admits the affair will work in your favor in court. The more concrete the evidence is, the better. If you are already separated, hiring a private investigator may not be beneficial as they can only prove what is happening now, not what has happened in the past. While evidence of post-separation behavior can be used to corroborate pre-separation behavior, it may not be worth the expense. I suggest you have a [consultation](http://www.rosen.com/contactus/) with an attorney in your area to discuss the specific facts of your case and make a plan on how to proceed.