# Infidelity **URL:** \ **Category:** Divorce and Separation Answers\ **Created:** [August 15, 2007, 11:42am UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/infidelity/4862 "2007-08-15T11:42:32Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 3\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![custodyresearcher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f05b48/32.png) [@custodyresearcher](https://forum.rosen.com/u/custodyresearcher)\ **Post date:** [August 15, 2007, 11:42am UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/infidelity/4862/1 "2007-08-15T11:42:32Z")
My wife slept with our plumber for two years while I was at work. She gave birth to his child and convinced me it was mine. But I was told by my then-attorney that this information is rather superfluous and wouldn’t make any real difference in a custody dispute. He said that morality is rarely a big deal in court, with regard to child custody, because the private sex life of the mother wasn’t hurting the children. ---
**Author:** ![Helena\_Nevicosi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/db5fbb/32.png) [@Helena\_Nevicosi](https://forum.rosen.com/u/Helena_Nevicosi)\ **Post date:** [August 15, 2007, 7:52pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/infidelity/4862/2 "2007-08-15T19:52:45Z")
If you want to establish paternity of your son you can file an action to establish paternity. If you were married when the baby was conceived and born, then you will be assumed to be the biological father. Generally, adultery does not have a big impact on custody, unless the party she is having the affair with is not suitable to be around your child. Helena M. Nevicosi Attorney with Rosen Law Firm 4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500 Raleigh, North Carolina 27607 919.787.6668 main phone 919.787.6361 main fax Charlotte Office 301 McCullough Drive Suite 510 Charlotte, NC 28262 Main Phone: (704)307.4600 Main Fax: (704) 9343.0044 Durham & Chapel Hill Office 1829 East Franklin Street Building 600 Chapel Hill, NC 27514 (919) 321.0780 > **[North Carolina Divorce Law - Legal Answers and Info](https://www.rosen.com/)** > > The best resource for divorce in NC. Find accurate, legal, family law advice from attorneys practicing in Raleigh, Durham, Cary, and Chapel Hill. The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service only, a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action. The information posted on this forum is available for public viewing and is not intended to create an attorney client relationship with any individual. These answers are provided for informational purposes only, a person should consult with their own individual legal counsel before taking any action that could affect their legal rights or obligations. ---
**Author:** ![doctrainer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ee59a6/32.png) [@doctrainer](https://forum.rosen.com/u/doctrainer)\ **Post date:** [August 15, 2007, 11:14am UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/infidelity/4862/3 "2007-08-15T11:14:04Z")
In divorce court, will the fact that my wife chose to call an ex-boyfriend while I ws out buying milk, pampers and a breast pump be admisible? She went on to leave my name off of the birth certificate so what our my options in this matter. VINCENT E. JACOBS