My wife said in court that I frequently initiate arguments as well as raise the level of hostility when we argue. My counter is that that’s a load of crap and that she is the one who initiates arguments and raises the level of hostility.
My parents have been happily married for 35 years and I don’t think I’ve ever heard them even argue with each other. I am very blessed in that I grew up in a safe, secure, peaceful environment. Meanwhile, my wife grew up in a situation with constant arguing. Both her parents were alcoholics and her father was physically and verbally abusive. She has done well to escape that environment but fact is that she brought a lot of the anger that she grew up with into our marriage.
Are those facts admissible in court? And if I bring them up, am I going to just look like a jerk or is it going to be seen as a decent indicator of exactly which one of us tends to “argue the most”…?