Greetings. I have a couple of ideas for you to become on the “offensive” versus the “defensive” or to at least not keep being beat down.
First, this is not going to start until she gets more money from your spouse, which she will get. Yes, all her “income” should be counted in the guidelines (if we are using NC law).
Next, have your attorney file a Motion to Show Cause against her if the custody action is through the court. If the custody action is by agreement, simply refuse to take her to the events Mom sets up, unless you have agreed ahead of time. Send her letters EVERY SINGLE TIME (and one today also) saying that you do not agree to her enrolling the child in any extracurricular activities without your prior consent as time with Dad is more important than any activity. If she refuses to allow you to see the child, file a custody claim and/or a breach of contract claim or motion to show cause. Her lack of moral compass combined with her disregard for your husband’s needed time with his child may be enough to get more time, if not the majority of time with the child.
Finally, have your attorney file a Motion for Protective Order and Request for Sanctions against this second attorney, since you have previously provided said information. Best of luck.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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