This is the information I have if the order you received was a 50-C: It’s sort of long but hopefully it will answer the questions you have about it. I do not know if what you were served with was a 50-C but if not you can look up the definitions of any of the chapter 50 statutes on NC General Assembly web site.
The bottom line is this: There are other ways of you paying a court ordered debt. I suggest mailing a check certified. Why would you want to continually have contact with the ex anyway, unless there are children involved?
Civil No Contact Orders.