# Scared to file myself

**URL:** <https://forum.rosen.com/t/scared-to-file-myself/15420>\
**Category:** Divorce and Separation Answers\
**Created:** [December 10, 2013, 7:21pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/scared-to-file-myself/15420 "2013-12-10T19:21:27Z")\
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**Author:** ![nov4](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@nov4](https://forum.rosen.com/u/nov4)\
**Post date:** [December 10, 2013, 7:21pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/scared-to-file-myself/15420/1 "2013-12-10T19:21:27Z")

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I am scared to file divorce myself. It is a a simple divorce. I got a protection order against my soon to be ex husband in October because he came to my house to try and kill me. He also threatened to kill himself about a half dozen times to get me to agree to an earlier separation date.

Is it safe for me to file divorce pro se??? I am just scared if he comes to court what might happen.

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**Author:** ![Kathleen\_Putiri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/57b2e6/32.png) [@Kathleen\_Putiri](https://forum.rosen.com/u/Kathleen_Putiri)\
**Post date:** [December 11, 2013, 9:06pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/scared-to-file-myself/15420/2 "2013-12-11T21:06:01Z")

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When you go to court, you should inform the sheriff’s deputy that there is a protective order in place in the event he does show up. The deputy should keep the parties separated and allow you to leave in advance to keep your distance.

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**Author:** ![Waterfall](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/53a042/32.png) [@Waterfall](https://forum.rosen.com/u/Waterfall)\
**Post date:** [December 16, 2013, 6:08pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/scared-to-file-myself/15420/3 "2013-12-16T18:08:47Z")

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- Not an Attorney \*

Just as Kathleen suggested you can inform the Sheriff in the courtroom (arrive early to do that) .  
Another option is to contact the victim advocate in your court house, he/she will make arrangements to make sure your safe as well & will possibly sit with you in an area that your EX cannot access if he shows up. Call your local court house and ask who to the victim advocate is & they will give you information.

\*\* ALSO \*\* Your Victim Advocate is a good source for legal advice and referral.

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**Author:** ![Kathleen\_Putiri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/57b2e6/32.png) [@Kathleen\_Putiri](https://forum.rosen.com/u/Kathleen_Putiri)\
**Post date:** [December 19, 2013, 1:18pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/scared-to-file-myself/15420/4 "2013-12-19T13:18:41Z")

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To be clear, unless a victim advocate is an attorney, he or she cannot provide legal advice.