You have my sympathy. I don’t know what possesses people to be so cold. My ex was beating me and drowning in a sea of vodka and can’t imagine why “I abandoned him”. I’ve lost everything but my life in this move–home, car, income, and family together (had to kick the older ones out of the nest–well, there is no nest now, anyway.) The ‘system’ has also abandoned me. I went to court last week (pro se) only to find out that while I could have divorce and custody, I can get $$$0000 for child support and no spousal support for twenty years as a sahm. Out of Florida’s jurisdiction, which the $500 paralegal who prepared my papers failed to mention. The judge even told me “you should have had a lawyer”. Well if you look on this site you’ll see that a lawyer would cost me six to ten grand. Might as well be six million when you’re on food stamps. You didn’t mention any children. I pray you haven’t got any. My son can’t understand why he can’t have any of the things other kids have. He has gotten to the point where he thanks me profusely for the smallest purchase (like a coke on the way home from school). The court gave me custody, which is kind of laughable. Why give custody to a person who can’t provide?