# Should I leave the house we own together? **URL:** \ **Category:** Divorce and Separation Answers\ **Created:** [December 2, 2007, 12:35pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/should-i-leave-the-house-we-own-together/5327 "2007-12-02T12:35:14Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 2\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Helena\_Nevicosi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/db5fbb/32.png) [@Helena\_Nevicosi](https://forum.rosen.com/u/Helena_Nevicosi)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2007, 12:35pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/should-i-leave-the-house-we-own-together/5327/1 "2007-12-02T12:35:14Z")
We always recommend an initial consultation with an attorney before deciding to leave the home. The issues involved with deciding to leave can be quite complex and it is best to make that decision while sitting down with an attorney who can review all of the facts of your case. Helena M. Nevicosi Attorney with Rosen Law Firm 4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500 Raleigh, North Carolina 27607 919.787.6668 main phone 919.787.6361 main fax Charlotte Office 301 McCullough Drive Suite 510 Charlotte, NC 28262 Main Phone: (704)307.4600 Main Fax: (704) 9343.0044 Durham & Chapel Hill Office 1829 East Franklin Street Building 600 Chapel Hill, NC 27514 (919) 321.0780 > **[North Carolina Divorce Law - Legal Answers and Info](https://www.rosen.com/)** > > The best resource for divorce in NC. Find accurate, legal, family law advice from attorneys practicing in Raleigh, Durham, Cary, and Chapel Hill. The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service only, a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action. The information posted on this forum is available for public viewing and is not intended to create an attorney client relationship with any individual. These answers are provided for informational purposes only, a person should consult with their own individual legal counsel before taking any action that could affect their legal rights or obligations. ---
**Author:** ![HoldingON](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8edcca/32.png) [@HoldingON](https://forum.rosen.com/u/HoldingON)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2007, 9:55am UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/should-i-leave-the-house-we-own-together/5327/2 "2007-11-29T09:55:04Z")
Things have be more than ‘bumpy’ with my wife and myself over the last couple months b/c her carreer has taken her out of town almost every week and many weekends. I have been taking care of my step-son when she is gone. Her trips have increased,…she goes out with people I don’t know,…and extends her trips frequently. Essentially we have spent less and less time around us and has emotionally pushed away. We have had discussions,…and I have sought emotional councelling (and invited her to join me), but she has done nothing. It finally came to a head and she indicated that she had ‘fallen out of love with me’. As such,…she doesn’t feel she can fix herself with me around. I’ve tried everything to fix this, but I may have no other option than the separation she has suggested. We own a house together, and each of would like to stay in the house, but there is the question of whether it is better for her to stay with her son, or me to stay because she wants to separate. I don’t know how to start the process (plus I don’t really want to), but I do feel like I need some time to get away from the stress that envelopes our household. If I were to go stay with a friend for a week or two to clear my head and address this without the emotional baggage,…am I in danger of hurting myself legally? Is this considered abandonedment? Am I hurting any possibility of owning the home by myself if we separate and potentially divorce? She makes more money than me,…but I don’t really want any cash,…I just want to maintain my home as best I can with or without her (preferrably with her).