I’m not sure there is anything you can do about how she chooses to spend the distributive award(s). Once she has been “awarded” money from the marital estate, it is hers to do with as she wishes.

I understand how hard this can be. I was so, so screwed in my divorce settlement. I now have to sit back and watch as my ex buys an expensive home for his girlfriend, an expensive home and vehicles for himself, a new car for his girlfriend (two since the divorce),and goes on exotic vacations with her while I, the wife of 21 years, struggle to pay my bills. Unfortunately, just as you, there is absolutely nothing I can do about it.

While it is frustrating to know others are benefiting from distributive award money, legally there is nothing you can do. The money belongs to your spouse to spend as she sees fit.

Erin E. Clarey
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While living seperate and apart for 6 months, distributive awards have been made during this time. It has been recently discovered that my spouse has roommates as well as friends staying over for extended stays. The money supplied was intended for her use. I am having difficulty continuing this knowing it benefits others not related to the marriage. No one in her household is working or contributing. It seems just to be a big party all the time. Please comment.