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Husband agreed to pay this, however due to violence of eldest child, he had to change custody so that mother takes full custody. In addition, the ex-wife is putting into the calculations with the county what she calls the extraordinary expense of having to make a 20 mile round trip to drop off the younger children at their schools since they are registered in our district.
The ex-husband cannot afford to pay the extra in child support, but it is unsafe to bring the violent child back in the home. As is the ex-husband’s rent 1/2 of what mortgage payment is for wife’s home, he hasn’t been paying his student loans. There is good reason to believe that the ex-wife is living either rent free, or heavily subsidized at her home, which is owned by her parents. The wife has also gone out and sought cell-phones, health insurance for the adult child (over 19), and contributes financially to the college support of the adult child, which the ex-husband cannot afford to do.
Although we don’t want to do anything detrimental to the kids, he really cannot afford to pay anything more despite him making more than she does. Is there any recourse for him, if not to lower child support, to get alimony lowered? Or is he stuck between allowing his abuser back in the house or defaulting on his separation agreement contract?