This is partly a rant, I am tired of the whole thing and would like it to just end:
I was told that I was not legally bound to bring my son anywhere due to nothing being signed as of yet, therefore, I can not be held in contempt for that reason. I emailed my husband last night and the GIRLFRIEND emailed me back stating that she was in fact going to be in Florida along with the two kids and there was nothing that I can do to keep her away from my son. So there goes any and all assumption.
I have my reasons for wanting this clause to be there and my attorney agreed with me which is why it is still there. If they marry, there is nothing I can do about it but while I can, I will attempt to protect my son from this type of person. Yes, this clause is used out of anger, etc, but there is a reason that it is there to be used in the first place.
My son is an impressionable 5 year old and I dont want him coming home right now wanting to know why daddy is sleeping with another woman nor do I really want to have to explain to him why daddy has another child who is 10 months old. I am answering questions right and left as it is concerning issues that come from a feeling of abandonment (that is what a school psychologist said): his dad calling him once a week, if he is lucky to get even that; when he does call, he is occupied elsewhere and “has to go” in less than 10 minutes; in 19 months, my son has seen his dad 2 times (once on my sons birthday in February when my mother in law brought him to my house and once because I arranged it completely). My son loves his dad tremendously and I go out of my way to keep that going but it is getting to the point where I am spending a lot of my own time, energy and MONEY to keep that going when my husband clears $85k a year and can afford to see his son whenever he wants but is slipping into the old “out of sight” mentality.
I beleive the old addage that one person’s trash is another person’s treasure, she can have him. He cheated on me with her and then cheated on her while she was in jail. I don’t know if he is having a mid-life crisis early or what but he use to be an awesome human being but now even his friends and BROTHER wonder what is going on.
At this point, if he signs the papers prior to December 24th, she can not be at that house while my son is there. So I am waiting to find out what to do in that case because it will happen whether the papers are signed or not.