# What to do? **URL:** \ **Category:** Divorce and Separation Answers\ **Created:** [October 18, 2006, 4:05pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/what-to-do/3778 "2006-10-18T16:05:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 3\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![JanetFritts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/d2c977/32.png) [@JanetFritts](https://forum.rosen.com/u/JanetFritts)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2006, 4:05pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/what-to-do/3778/1 "2006-10-18T16:05:51Z")
Dear algipac: Greetings. No, the court will not look at the separation period since you reconciled. I would immediately move for separation. Thank you. Janet L. Fritts Attorney with Rosen Law Firm 4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500 Raleigh, North Carolina 27607 919.787.6668 main phone 919.256.1665 direct fax 301 McCullough Drive Suite 510 Charlotte, North Carolina 28262 704.644.2831 main voice 704.307.4595 main fax 1829 East Franklin Street, Bldg 600 Chapel Hill, NC 27514 919.321.0780 main phone 919.787.6668 main fax > **[North Carolina Divorce Law - Legal Answers and Info](https://www.rosen.com/)** > > The best resource for divorce in NC. Find accurate, legal, family law advice from attorneys practicing in Raleigh, Durham, Cary, and Chapel Hill. The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service but a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action. ---
**Author:** ![JanetFritts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/d2c977/32.png) [@JanetFritts](https://forum.rosen.com/u/JanetFritts)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2006, 4:06pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/what-to-do/3778/2 "2006-10-18T16:06:33Z")
Dear algipac: Greetings. No, the court will not look at the separation period since you reconciled. I would immediately move for separation. Thank you. Janet L. Fritts Attorney with Rosen Law Firm 4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500 Raleigh, North Carolina 27607 919.787.6668 main phone 919.256.1665 direct fax 301 McCullough Drive Suite 510 Charlotte, North Carolina 28262 704.644.2831 main voice 704.307.4595 main fax 1829 East Franklin Street, Bldg 600 Chapel Hill, NC 27514 919.321.0780 main phone 919.787.6668 main fax > **[North Carolina Divorce Law - Legal Answers and Info](https://www.rosen.com/)** > > The best resource for divorce in NC. Find accurate, legal, family law advice from attorneys practicing in Raleigh, Durham, Cary, and Chapel Hill. The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service but a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action. ---
**Author:** ![algipac](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e56c9b/32.png) [@algipac](https://forum.rosen.com/u/algipac)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2006, 9:33pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/what-to-do/3778/3 "2006-10-16T21:33:03Z")
I have a question but before let me explain my situation. In the last 3 years my wife has wanted to live on her own. My wife and I have been married 18 years. We got married outside of the USA. My wife has a history of depression and sometime does not think straight. I tried everything I could to keep her at home but a year ago she decided to leave for good. I had to accept the inevitable but asked her to find a job first which she did. I bought a town home for her nearby so the kids could go in either places when they wanted and have been paying the mortgage every month since. After 4 months of living separately I received a letter from a law office informing me that she wanted to resolve the marital separation in an amicable manner which I responded positively. Very soon after that she left her job and found herself with no resource. She was not fired, she left on her own. I helped as much as I could for a couple of months by giving her money for her to make ends meet until she found another job. Unfortunately she lost this other job after only 2 months. When I saw her hitting rock bottom I proposed her to come back with me but I realize now that this was a big mistake. She now makes my life miserable by blaming me for everything, which happened to her. I am thinking about filling for divorce myself as I am fed up with this situation. Too much is too much. My questions are: Is the fact that she left initially something that can be taken into account? Will the 8 months we lived separately be considered even if she has been back with me for the last 6 weeks? Many thanks for any information you will be able to give me