# When to move out
**URL:** https://forum.rosen.com/t/when-to-move-out/11152
**Category:** Divorce and Separation Answers
**Created:** [October 13, 2010, 6:33pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/when-to-move-out/11152 "2010-10-13T18:33:06Z")
**Posts on this page:** 8
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### Author:  [@needsomehelp](https://forum.rosen.com/u/needsomehelp)
#### Post date: [October 13, 2010, 6:33pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/when-to-move-out/11152/1 "2010-10-13T18:33:06Z")
I have been asked to move out of the house where my wife and two children live. We will be getting a diviorce. Am I under any obligation to move out or can I be forced to move out? There is no abuse of any kind. Love my children and don’t want to leave plus I cannot afford it.
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### Author:  [@Erin\_Clarey](https://forum.rosen.com/u/Erin_Clarey)
#### Post date: [October 13, 2010, 7:04pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/when-to-move-out/11152/2 "2010-10-13T19:04:26Z")
I suggest that you DO NOT move out, and schedule a consultation with a lawyer as soon as you can.
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### Author:  [@needsomehelp](https://forum.rosen.com/u/needsomehelp)
#### Post date: [October 13, 2010, 10:19pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/when-to-move-out/11152/3 "2010-10-13T22:19:09Z")
So now my wife says she is moving out, with the children, against my will and will be using our money to do it. I am looking for legal representation and reading up on the state laws, but this is coming very fast. I do need to speak with someone quickly to tell me what rights I have, what she can and cannot do with children and keep her from doing financial damage.
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### Author:  [@EndoftheLine](https://forum.rosen.com/u/EndoftheLine)
#### Post date: [October 14, 2010, 2:31am UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/when-to-move-out/11152/4 "2010-10-14T02:31:31Z")
Until there is a court order saying otherwise, you have equal legal rights to your children. Do not settle on a visitation schedule you are not happy with (they can be hard to change later). You also have a legal right to half of the assets, if there are joint bank accounts then I would go open your own account asap and transfer half of whatever savings you might have. Not that she would, but there is a chance she could withdraw all of it.
You need to find a lawyer asap.
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### Author:  [@needsomehelp](https://forum.rosen.com/u/needsomehelp)
#### Post date: [October 15, 2010, 3:42pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/when-to-move-out/11152/5 "2010-10-15T15:42:36Z")
I will be meeting with your office, but not for about 2 weeks. I have direct deposit. Move that to my new account as well?
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### Author:  [@Erin\_Clarey](https://forum.rosen.com/u/Erin_Clarey)
#### Post date: [October 15, 2010, 6:17pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/when-to-move-out/11152/6 "2010-10-15T18:17:49Z")
Yes, you may do so.
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### Author:  [@needsomehelp](https://forum.rosen.com/u/needsomehelp)
#### Post date: [October 28, 2010, 10:13pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/when-to-move-out/11152/7 "2010-10-28T22:13:03Z")
My wife now wants to move out with the children. She has a place to live now, from my perspective (our house) until the proper processes have been followed to determine custody and money. Am I under any obligation to pay for a place for her to move into with the children? I would prefer the children remain in the home, but I don’t know if I can request that. But she is saying that her lawyer says I need to pay for her apartment.
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### Author:  [@Erin\_Clarey](https://forum.rosen.com/u/Erin_Clarey)
#### Post date: [October 29, 2010, 12:11pm UTC](https://forum.rosen.com/t/when-to-move-out/11152/8 "2010-10-29T12:11:59Z")
You are not obligated to pay for a new residence for her, and can request that the children remain with you.