There is no magic age when a child can make the decision to no longer see a parent. I’d document the dates that the child was to be with her Dad and then file for contempt.
I will not allow the child to make that decision over the phone, I would go to the child and let the child tell me face to face and tell her to write it in a letter not typed but written in her own hand writing.
There is no set age, but while the court may listen to what a child has to say, there is never an age where they get to decide. When they turn 18 they are no longer considered minors and they can live where they choose at that time.
If you feel that the child’s mother is engaging in alienating behavior it is important to do everything you can to address this issue. I would exercise visitation as often as you can, take this issue to court if you have to. In addition, I would try to get the child into therapy to help address any alienation issues.
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At what point can a child in NC make the decision that she does not want to go with the other parent for that weekend visit? We know the mother is basically alienating the father but, we are currently working on custody agreement and the mother puts the child up to calling her father to say she does not want to come.