My wife and I were married 8 years ago in Jacksonville, Florida. Our seven year old son was born 2 years later in Tampa. We moved to Charlotte in 2007. In February 2009 my wife abandoned me and my son to move 50 miles away to Statesville with her new boyfriend. She is uneducated and works part time for Big Lots in Statesville. I have a degree in network engineering and work as a Desktop Support/Help Desk technician, but that industry has been hard hit here in Charlotte so I’ve been bouncing from six month contract to six month contract since June of 2008 when E*Trade laid us all off (they relocated me here from the Tampa office.)
Neither of us can afford a divorce. We have a verbal agreement concerning custody. Our son lives with me in our family home, and she gets him every other weekend. I have been getting a lot of job offers from out of state. I’m currently under consideration for the making homes affordable plan because of the instability of the IT market here in Charlotte. I feel I could better provide for him and give him a more stable life if I were to take one of these out of state positions, and wanted to know what my legal rights were, since she abandoned him over a year ago, has never paid one cent in support, moved 50 miles away to another county, and no legal custody has been determined.