My girlfriend and I mutually split up earlier in the summer. We have a two year old child together. Currently we have been exchanging the little girl every other week and I have been giving $400 a month to the mother for care of my daughter. I also pay for the mother’s health insurance as well as the child. All was fine till the mother decided to try and get back in a relationship with me and I said no.
Now she is threatening me with legal issues, custody, and court ordered child payment. I feel it is a bluff but I do not want to be pressured. I am willing to retain an attorney but I would like to know what are the most likely scenarios I will have to face.
Here is additional background. The mother moved with the child to South Carolina. The mother still has a NC driver’s license and cannot get a SC drivers license till she pays fines and back taxes so her status will be as a NC resident until she can pay those items off and that should be awhile. At least I think that is how I read it.
The mother has no income. She has not worked anywhere for three years. She lives in a government subsidized apartment that she had before we met and kept it even though she was living in NC. She kept this apratment unknown to me until I asked recently how she could afford to live for free. I am sure that was illegal but I really don’t care. The mother has been in a mental institution many years ago for observation of depression and suicidal thoughts. She claims to have major health issues (i.e. some heart condition but it was never evident backpacking or kayaking). As I stated earlier she does not work and hasn’t in three years.
I am the CEO of a non porift make about 46K a year, I am healthy, stable, own my on home, no criminal record, no drug problems, or issues of any kind. I don’t break laws but I guess that I was guilable when it came to this relationship. I was taken advantage of for almost four years supporting the mother the entire time but I am fine with that.
What are my legal options? I think it would be best if I were to have custody of my daughter and she have visitation. She cannot clearly take care of the child with no income but when I go and calculate payments I get raked over the coals because the mother doesn’t work.
I want what is best for my daughter. I know me raising her would be hard on the child as well as me; I don’t want the mother out of the plan but I do want to be protected as well as the child. My little girl is my world and I am so afraid that she is not going to have the life that she deserves.