Constructively abandoned?


#1

You do not have to have a separation agreement prior to leaving the home but it is advisable to consult with an attorney. Abandonment would mean that you left the home with no intention of keeping your finacial responsibilities intact. If you pay an amount for child support and keep up your finacial responsibilities, have let your STBX know your intentions to leave the home for separation then it is not considered abandonment in reality. One of you must leave for the separation to begin and if you have made the effort of separation agreement, regardless of her unwillingness to cooperate, the courts would see that.
I suggest that you consult an attorney to find out where you stand. Have a separation agreement drawn up, even if she doesn’t sign it, and keep good records. If you file for “Divorce from Bed & Board” it would force her to leave the marital residence for the reasons you mentioned. If you pay anything to her, make sure you keep a record of it (Check or money order).


#2

In order to answer this question I would need to do an in depth review of your specific situation.

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#3

I’m at wits end with the STBX. She has no intention on obtaining a lawyer but instead wants to remain the status quo, outright hostility, constant berating me to others and speaking of committing infidelity. How risky is it for me to leave the home without an abandonment agreement, choosing instead to seek to be able to leave due to the living conditions being intolerable? How big of a chance will I be taking when in front of a judge? I can’t take much more, I’m hesitant to leave because of my son.