You cannot file for divorce unless you have physically lived separate and apart for a year and one day. You have to actually have separate residences, separate bedrooms are not sufficient. You can file for divorce in North Carolina as long as you have been a citizen and resident of this state for at least six months. You may be able to file for divorce in New York but it would depend on their residency requirement.
Helena M. Toft
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
919.787.6668 main phone
919.256.1665 direct fax
10925 David Taylor Drive, Suite 100
Charlotte, North Carolina 28262
704.644.2831 main voice
704.307.4595 main fax
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