Hello. These may be silly questions but here goes. (1) When does property actually get divided? Is it done during separation or not until the actual divorce is final a year later? I am referring mostly to investment accounts, IRAs, 401ks, that sort of property. We have already sold the house and split the proceeds. I see that my STBX took $10k out of his 401k to put down on a house he is building (while I have moved to a small run-down rental to keep my kids in their current schools). I am concerned that he will “spend” the money so I won’t get my share. (2) We have not yet signed a SA but are mostly in agreement about assets. Do we have to have a SA with all that legal jargon in it or can I write up one on my own with the basics and we get it notarized? (3) I was a stay-at-home Mom for 13 years of our 16-yr marriage with just a parttime job for about the last 3 years. I am now unemployed and unable to find work (going on 8 months). He says he won’t pay me what the CS calculator indicates because he thinks I should have been working all these years! I don’t want to fight about it but I need more than what he is currently paying. Do I have to take him to court to get the right amount?
Thanks very much for your input.