Greetings. I do not know of the law in Washington, but I think that it is clear to me that North Carolina is the proper jurisdiction for all the issues. If he does object to the jurisdiction, and the case is returned to North Carolina, the one year separation rule would clearly apply for the divorce.
As I mentioned to someone else yesterday in a post, the “home of record” for the military is not dispositive for child custody and other issues in NC. You are a resident here for jurisdiction if you lived here for the last six months. Child Custody is also based on where the child and parents live, and in your case you have only been in Washington for 3 weeks, so NC would still be the proper place for child custody. Best of luck.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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