Leaving the state


#1

You can walk out whenever you want, but be aware that until there is a seperation agreement that addresses child custody, he has just as much right to take the child as you do. Draft a seperation agreement, spelling out what you want. He will either sign or not, but it does show you made the effort. If you are in fear for your or your child(ren)'s safety, leave asap. Under NC law you are entitled to 50% of debts and assets. If you are a dependant spouse, you can try for alimony as long as you have not commited adultry. If I were you, with the possibility of moving back to NY, I would get my ducks in a row, draft a seperation agreement, and be prepared to leave. BUT I would have a family member there with you when you present the agreement. He will either sign or not. A seperation agreemnt does not have to cover everything in the divorce, but basically an agreement for until you go through with the divorce. One note though… even if you address financial in the seperation agreement, contact creditors to have your name removed from his accounts. Things like mortgages and bank notes may have to be refinances in order to remove someone from responsibility. If your name is on a bill and it doesn’t get paid, no matter what a seperation (and for that matter, a divorce decree) says, you are responsible; if it doesn’t get paid it will go on YOUR credit. Talk to your child(ren), do not spring on them… “we’re moving to…” But do not have the child(ren) there when you announce to the husband you are leaving. When you leave you will loose the right to re-enter the home at will. If he disagrees and refuses to sign the agreement, he can file for custody of the child(ren), just as easily as you can.


#2

This question if far too complicated to be answered on the forum. I advise you to consult with an attorney to examine the specific facts of your case.

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#3

i have been married for 16 1/2 years…about 6 years ago i became disabled. at that time he started to be become verbaly abusive now he has started to become physicaly abusive…he only pushed me once but once leads to many more…we have an 11 year old child…we have no family here in nc and my family in ny are begging me to come home…can i pack up and leave and what rights do i have and what rights will i lose by leaving