Sorry if this has already been answered but I was not able to find the answer on the board. We are currently going through a separation and have agreed to divide our assets ourselves outside of an attorney. We formulated our won separation agreement and in there we said she would get a designated amount of money from my 401k. With that said do we a) need to submit an equitable distribution form to the courts and b) will a judge approve of the QDRO before the divorce occurs 8 months from now or does she have to wait the divorce is final to get the 401k money.
Thank you in advance