Greetings. First, based on the information that you have provided I have no real idea what is going on. If she is asking for alimony and never got it before, it is highly unlikely she will get it now. If your husband was ordered to pay a debt and did not, it is not reopening the divorce, but trying to enforce a prior court order or agreement.
Yes there are things that you can do to avoid court. #1 document and keep records of everything you pay #2 always pay guideline child support, which she can get regardless of what the separation agreement says on this issue, as child support can always be modified. #3 file a motion for sanctions against her. Thank you.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Law Firm
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