Sjarrell I am glad for you, but you will still have some rough times ahead of that I have no doubt. Be prepared, be informed try to disconnect emotions from decisions.

I’m so glad that your attorney put you more at ease. don5327 is right though that there may be some rough times ahead. Find someone close to you that you can talk to. Someone that will be on your side in this and has your best interest in mind. Someone that can read over anything from court, go to court with you, and that can look at this situation from the outside and can tell you if something doesn’t seem to benefit you.
I’m also glad that you have decided to see this as a beginning. I’ll keep you in my thoughts and keep us posted!

I’m glad to hear your news. Best of luck.

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Met with a great attorney yesterday and he spelled everything out and I feel much better now. Husband has started to bully me and tell me I am only going to get what he wants me to have, etc. Attorney laughed at that one and said that alimony in the state of N.C. after 27 years of marriage is an automatic whether spouse agrees or not. If spouse argues…off to court we go and more than likely judge will order him to pay all attorney fees if we have to take it to that extreme. As far as ED…I am entitled to half of the equity in the house and condo, 401-K, IRA, half of his retirement, and 50% of the business he owns so actually I am going to be better off (financially)after we part ways. Husband has always controlled the money and the decision making in our marriage and I will NOT miss that. I WILL make a new life for myself even though I thought the one I had was just fine.