Hello, I am in the Army and currently deployed to the Middle East. Last October, 6 months before I deployed my wife started getting close to another woman and started having an emotional affair. I found out that she was attracted to other women. Her friend moved away and we have had issues since. Well recently she is making it clear that she is probably coming out of the closet and will most likely not want to be married anymore. She has stated that she has been conflicted our whole marriage and is just now coming to terms with it. We have 4 children. Here are the questions, the background that I provided will hopefully help these be answered.
I deployed in July, currently we are not legally separated, I will go home in Dec for a month and am trying to figure out where to stay. I want to stay at the house with my kids, but my wife might be there also. Does my time overseas count towards the required separation? if so, will my three weeks that I am at home reset the time meaning that we are back at 0 days.
Seeing as she has had these feelings since we were married, and I am getting ready to retire, what are the odds that she would be entitled to a portion of my military retirement? It seems messed up that I would have to give her alimony, child support AND my retirement if she had this emotional affair, and the entire duration of our marriage she has had thoughts of being with other women, to include when we took our vowels.