My STBX have not yet signed a separation agreement. I’m the dependent spouse and he has agreed verbally that I will stay in the house. For many years, he has given me an “allowance” of $6000 per month for household expenses, etc. and for my own personal expenses. This is approximately what I would seek in alimony. However, he is dragging his feet on signing the agreement and leaving the home. I FEEL LIKE I AM HOSTAGE TO HIS FOOT-DRAGGING. CAN I SIMPLY SPEND ALL NIGHTS AT MY MOM’S HOME, with the clear intention to separate permanently, and thus initiate the separation, which starts the clock ticking for my year’s waiting period prior to absolute divorce, without jeopardizing the substance of our eventual settlement? I would return to our home during the day, as usual for my work purposes, as I teach there, and the only difference would be that I would spend NO MORE NIGHTS with him still in the house. Would this work to initiate my separation period? I’m suffering from his threats of suicide, and his smothering me in the house. Thank you for a clear answer.
“Hostage to his foot-dragging in my own home.”