My stbx and I have verbally agreed on terms: ED, Child Support, and Alimony. I am paying these items per our verbal agreement. She however does not want to sign a separation agreement. I am not sure of the reasons, whether she thinks I have secret accounts or what (or maybe she just enjoys having some measure of manipulation or control over me). My question: What happens if we reas 1 year and 1 day from the date of separation and she still has not signed. Can I go ahead and file for the divorce? If the divorce goes through, what are my obligations for Child Support, Alimony, and ED. For ED, we have already split everything up. For Child support, I am paying what the NC calculator says, and happy to do it. For alimony, what are my obligations of the divorce goes through and she never signs the sep. paperwork. Am I obligated to pay the amount we have verbally agreed upon and that I haqve been paying? or could I stop paying? Unsure if it will come to this but just wondering what would happen in that case.