OK… I now have solid proof that my wife has committed adultery with a much older man, while we have been separated.
He ws out with her two days after I moved out. And I have photos of them in public (at an event) that seem to portray a familiarity that goes beyond this having been a first date.
He met her months before our separation. He lunched with her and gave her marital advise before the separation. And he is sleeping with her now.
She and I have not signed a legal separation of any sort. We have simply talked and worked out our schedule with our son.
However on days that keep our son, she has been seen (and photographed) out on the town, drunk and in compromising positions. As well, she was photographed making out with another woman, whom my son and I returned to her home one morning and discovered that this woman was in bed with my wife.
Recently my wife tried to coax me to sign separation papers, but I refused based on concerns for our son.
It would seem that her new man has a law background and is demanding that they keep their relationship a secret now. (I have found out much though despite his attempts)
My main question here is:
Based on her conduct, the photo evidence, and the adultery, should I be looking for sole custody of our son?
Her behavior since I moved out has become out of control and very self-destructive. I know she keeps it together when she is with our son, but worry about her lifestyle choices bleeding over and having negative effect on our son.
I do not want to see this happen. I want to see her get help and come out of this “new” life she has thrown herself into (a result of many things including turning 30) I think she will eventually get over this phase, and I want to reconcile things, despite all she has done. I just don’t know the logical next step.
Should I push with some legal action? Or should I just start getting a lawyer to help me with the ins and outs of my potential case?