I am the dependent spouse and my stbx had an affair. She supposedly stopped seeing the guy. I wanted to work things out and forgave her for the affair, but she decided 3 months later that it was over and I moved out. She paid me alimony for the first several months after I moved out, and then gave me a lump sum per our separation agreement, at a total of $18,000. We’ve beens separated now for almost 8 months. I thought the affair was over, but now they are now dating openly and planning to get married after our divorce is finalized. I’m very suspicious that they never did stop like she said and I am devastated. Can I file for more alimony now that I know the real deal or is it too late since I signed the agreement? How can I prove they never did stop the affair?
Also, proving AA against the guy could be hard bc we had so many problems before she met this guy and she’d been in therapy for a while because of our issues (I was supposedly abusive as she claims although it was mostly just me having a bad temper). She says they never slept together but I have phone records proving she was making calls from where he grew up and she admitted she was with him overnight but also with others “partying”. I found a picture of them together on her work laptop and they were kissing. She says this was obtained illegally and that I don’t have any proof that this was a sexual affair except that the phone records go back 4-5 years of multiple conversations per day almost everyday. Is this enough for criminal conversation against the guy? Do I have to have a lot of money to sue him for this? How does it work?