Dear readytobedivorced:

Greetings. First, I would need to know how long after the date of separation was it before she says she has the hotel receipts. In other words, she left in May and in what month does she claim she caught you in a hotel room. Typically a relationship that starts after the date of separation is fine, as long as there was sufficient time for the new relationship to start outside of the marriage.

Now, as far as alimony, on a three year marriage with such a small difference in income (and depending on the bills/debts she left behind, etc.) it may be that she would pay more in attorney fees and costs to get alimony from you than the actual alimony would be worth. Thank you.

Janet L. Fritts
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Posted - 06/28/2005 : 12:38:16

My wife left me last May. After she left, she started to follow me and hired a private investigator. Keep in mind, she had already left approx. 10 times during our marriage and then she would come back a few days later. We were only married 3 years and have had no children. Anyway, she hired a PI who followed me (After she left for the last time) and she says she has receipts where another woman and myself ate dinner and went to a hotel. She also claims to have cell phone records where this woman and i talked before she left. We worked together so I am sure that is possible. However, the way she got access to this was to logon to my cell phone account with my social security # and create a user name and password. Since she was not listed on the account, is this not Identity theft? Either way, we had an awful marriage where there were many nights we didnt even sleep in the same room. I am now seeing the other woman even though we are not divorced yet. She also seems to want me to pay her $25,000. However, she has nothing on me (at least in my opinion). She created most of the debt in our marriage. My question is will I have to pay alimony? I made approx 10,000 more than her when we were married. Since we have seperated I have taken a job where I make $40,000 more. She has a college degree in education so she can support herself. What will happen in your opinion?