i dont even know were to begin.
on nov 2 i came home from band practice. my wife helped me un load the band equipment. she siad she was going to the store so i told her i would go with her. she siad no…now she never told me anything like that before so i knew something was wrong. i askek her many times what was wrong and she finally told me that she was leaving me.
after many times me asking her why she stated if i dont get out of her way she would hurt me or get some one to hurt me. she stated that she knows how to do it.
i was diagnosed with degenerated disk deseas in my spine. i am in constant pain. all you have to do is push my head a cirtian way and it causes excrutiating pain.
my son and a friend of his was coming around the corner and just as i turned my head to see who it was she pushed my head back which caused my nerves to be pintched and dropped me to the ground. after that she left.
my son helped me up and brought me to the house. later that night i cheked my email and found a letter that she forwarded to a friend stating that she was going to put a protection order agianst me.
i called the sheriffs department and they advised me to go to the court and file a protection order agianst her so i did that the next morning.
4 hours later after i went home i was served a protection order from her.
the judge at the time gave me the home.
one week later before we went to court she called my sons home trying to get me to drop my charges agianst her.
we went to court the next day and i asked the judge for a continuance so that i can seek and attorney.
so the judge continued the case for two weeks.
during that two weeks i could not find an attorney because they all wanted too much money. i finally did find an attoerney that i could afford. i found him two days prior to the next court hearing on the ex partes.
during the two weeks my wife shut the electric off,the phone and cable service and she was going to shut the water off.
she had her sister call my cell phone and relayed messages from my wife.
so i got my phone records, the records from the electric company stating she had the servises terminated.
i also had medical records from two seperate doctors stating my disability.
i had a document from our realitor stating that we purchased our home together but was advised to put it into my wifes name because of my credit at the time.
i also had documents stating when i was working at the time before my disability.
we finally went back to court…
she had an attorny…at the time her attorney served me with a marital distribution summons.
when her attorny and i spoke i told him that i would drop my protection order if she would.
he told me that she wanted the house and i told him that the house belonged to both of us
and that she can buy me out or sell it because we where married at the time when we purchased it.
he told me no that she used her dads inheritance to put the down payement of the home and that we will go with the trial now.
i went in front of the judge and pleaded that he give me another week because i found an attorney and needed a week to finish retianing him. i also stated that i was under the influance of seregual, xanax,morphine and lortab for my pain and angsiaty dis order.
i was not compitant to stand trial agianst an attorney.
the judge denide me those rights and went on with the trial.
when it came to me producing any of my evidance to show that i was disabled, the documents about my wife shutting the utilities i was denide showing any evidance what so ever.
i was removed from the home and she was able to move back in and continue with her protection order.
i believe my civil rights where violated in this case.
i cannot find an attorny that i can afford.
i am legally disabled and if anyone nows of a bro bono attorny that can help me with this case please let me know.
i am in brunswick county north carolina.
this story goes back from when i caught her son stealing my pain medications.
i believe she wanted me out of the home to move her son back in.
also at our trial i was served with a distribution of marital assets. it stated that i am not disabled
but i am. it also stated that she wants the home with out splitting it up or selling it.
i have 18 days to file an answer but as i stated i do not and cannot afford an atterney
please some one help me. i am homeless because of this ive been totally dependant of my wifes income
she is cutting me off our health insurance too
we purchased a home together and she is trying to get it all
i am mentally icompitant to stand for myself in court