Broken Engagement

I should also state that I live in NC and he lives in SC.

Just my personal opinion, but the ring is a gift and need not be returned unless you want to. I doubt you’ll get a lot if you sell it. Ruining your reputation is just a guilt trip. I don’t see how he could ruin your reputation unless you allow him to make you think that. Real friends know the truth about you…to hell with the rest.

An engagement ring is a gift given in contemplation of marriage, if the marriage does not take place, the ring should be returned. However, in this case he has told you that you can keep it. It would be safest if you could get something from him in writing to confirm this, if you cannot, keep the voicemail in case it does become an issue in the future. If you have one of those two things, you can safely sell the ring.

Helena M. Nevicosi
Attorney with Rosen Law Firm

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If the ring isn’t valued more than what he owes you, you can sue him in small claims court. Just make sure you get a recording or something in writing where it states he owes you and how much. Also, if he does spread runors about you, that is slander. If it causes you harm and it is not true, you can sue him for that too.

My fiance and I were engaged for 6 months. He proposed to me on a trip he took me on for my birthday. He broke off the engagement 6 months later. At that time and currently he owes me a lot of money. I told him I would return the ring when he pays me back the money I am owed from a loan I granted him. After trying to finalize this for close to a year, he told me last week in a voicemail that if it wasn’t finalized by that Friday, I could sell the ring. He did not finalize and pay me back on that Friday. If I sell the ring to make up for the money he owes me, can he sue me a later date because I did not return the ring? He is also making verbal threats to “ruin my reputation” with my family and friends. Any advice is greatly appreciated!!