I’m not sure what is material and what is not:
3 Kids fairly attached to both parents
-wants to end marriage
-she has not moved out yet but is planning to soon, moved out of bedroom 6 years ago but provided “sex” about weekly.
-is not willing to see a marriage councilor
-she is temperamental but a OK mother overall
-wants primary physical custody (I think is motivated by money)
-has been diagnosed with depression, she is taking several anti-depressants, takes ambien to sleep— sees multiple doctors and has her doctor brother write prescriptions for her… has some physiological/medical issues and does not handle stress well.
-wants to work on marriage
-I take kids to school and pick them up around 60% of time
-I go to ~60% of doctors visits, etc
-I’m slighly more likely to take them out for dinner on weeknights, she spends slightly more time with them on weekends
-kids grew up in “my” “premarital house” and best friends are in neighborhood, my house in her school district
Her attorney apparently has her convinced she will get primary custody… I think 50/50 split is better for them. She initially agreed (for about 2 weeks) on a equal split but after she hired an attorney her opinion changed. I have not hired one yet, but have been making sure to keep kids a lot and spend 50% or more time with them. She has left two nights so far without kids, and took them once to her parents house overnight without asking me.