I’m looking for advice on how to best change my custody arrangment. My ex and I divorced last year and agreed on 50/50 custody of our two children. He remarried a year ago. After 8 weeks of marriage, he contacted me telling me that he “didn’t know how to get out of it”. Over the last year, he and his new wife have had very physical fights. According to him, she’s held a knife on him and “jumped” him. Their fights have led him to punch a hole in a door and break a bathroom vanity, although he tells me he doesn’t get physical with her during these fights because he doesn’t want to be charged with spousal abuse. From what I can tell, their fights do not happen in front of the kids. (For the record, we were married for 17 years and he never even raised his voice to me). She randomly calls me (I don’t speak to her) and has left a letter in my door, but I have yet to figure out why. She moved out in June (after he made her leave). Since then, she continues to try to contact me. She randomly shows up at his house. On one occasion, he called the sheriff to come and make her leave. Last month, she attempted suicide and was admitted to a psychiatric hospital for a week. For reasons unknown to me, she is now moving back in with him. I do not feel that my children are safe around her, but he disagrees. Do I have grounds for changing our custody agreement? Without his cooperation, can I get full custody of my kids and what is they best way to do it?
Thanks for your help!