Child chooses parent

In North Carolina, there is no one age at which a trial court is required to take into account the child’s wishes. The decision is left to the judge as to when/whether a child is mature enough for his wishes to warrant consideration.

The following is from Reynolds v. Reynolds, 109 N.C. App. 110, 426 S.E.2d 102 (1993). Internal citations are omitted.

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The “paramount consideration” in matters of custody and visitation is the best interests of the child, and in determining such matters the trial Judge may consider the wishes of a child of suitable age and discretion…The child’s wishes, however, are never controlling, “since the court must yield in all cases to what it considers to be the child’s best interests, regardless of the child’s personal preference.”

Thank you! I’ll let my friend know.:slight_smile:

Dear curious1:

Greetings. The court may take into consideration a child’s preference at anytime, but all the judges I know (except for one) dislike having the children brought to them as they believe that involving the children in the custody dispute is detrimental to them. Thank you.

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Law Firm

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At what age will the courts take into account a child’s preference for which parent they wish to reside with? Thank you!