Greetings. You don’t get to grant or not grant him anything - granting is for the court. The mistake that you are making is thinking that you have the power/decision making authority over the children. Yes, you may have to give him some time, but you have the right to ask the court to limit that time or to limit who the children can be around. If he does not have a place for the children to sleep, just tell his attorney that overnights can commence when that occurs.
You can request whatever you want to in mediation - and so can he. Yes, you can make how many orders you all agree on. Good luck.
Janet L. Fritts
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