The only solution is to take it to the courts if you have sufficient cause for reduction. I would consult a lawyer. If she doesn’t agree to what you’ve asked, then you have no choice. You’re bound by your agreement until you have it modified-period. If you default, then you can get into trouble. If you haven’t gotten divorced yet, then address the issues at the same time.
If you have a Separation Agreement, you probably cannot modify alimony, unless the Agreement permits you to do so. If your income has changed 15% or more, you can file a lawsuit for child support and the court may reduce your obligation.
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In our separation papers, the combination of child support & alimony amounted to 35% of my salary. After a job change, this amount would now be for 59% of my salary. I have asked my ex-spouse for a reduction in child support & alimony for a total amounting to 42% of my current salary. She is not accepting this offer. Do you have a a suggestion?