yes i got a letter yesterday saying i have to go to a child support hearing on the 26th of march. me and my wife are seperated since july, we had a verbal agreement of me paying 400.00 a month and all medical and daycare, i have done this to the t. she was the one who moved out and left i did not abandon her, i kept the house we were renting, when she left i gave her a car and half of the furniture in the house.
i told her i want joint custody of my son and she tries to dictate when i get him, i average about 9 to 10 days a month now that he stays with me. but lately i do not think she is looking for the best interest of my son. last week i found my ex and my son in a semi private bar at 12am, i went there and got my son from her in the bar and took him home. this is not the right place for a 8 year old boy to be. when i have my son i devote my whole life to him, but she does not do the same. she has a live in boy friend that lives with her which is ok with me but i do not know if it is the right envyroment for my son because they are moving again this week to a new house with another person so there will be three adults and my child there. i live alone and have a stable house, she is not providing that to my son and he cries and tells me he wants to stay with me. i by no means want to keep my son from his mother but i would like full custody so i can be there for his needs.
what i dont understand is we have a hearing but nothing in writing for custody, at this hearing are they going to deciede who gets custody? i keep a log book everyday on the things she says to me and how she is not providing for my son. i keep a receipts and copy every check i give her for support, i do not know how much to pay so i came up with those numbers, i make 62,000 a year and she makes 22,000 a year. so i figured i would have to pay something. it is not about the money to me just want to make sure my child is taken care of.
what else should i provide at this hearing? pictures of my house, his room? i need advice on this matter.